I’ve realized that deep feelings of satisfaction come from our ability to stick with something long term to see the fruits of our labor. Although, to be honest, I want to instantly feel like an expert at whatever I’m working on, and completely bypass the failure part.
My fitness coach recently told me, “everything important in our lives is going to require effort — and most likely, lots of it.” This of course happened when I was wobbling on the ground trying to hold a plank position.
Our ability, or inability, to stick it out with something is really the determining factor in our ability to get better at it. This means everything from work, fitness, business, writing, to relationships. This means it’s going to suck, look messy, and frustrate us.
I’m working on admitting to myself when I’ve felt like I’ve failed. And instead of giving up, or hiding, or ghosting from it, like my usual M.O, I’ve been getting back to it. Whether it’s being embarrassed about writing a piece that got no reactions/likes, or having a workout where I didn’t give my all, or whether it’s having an uncomfortable conversation in my work or relationship, I’m getting back to it.
I realize that the contrast of feeling wrong, or feeling like I failed, is also part of the process. And the sooner I get back to it, the better I feel.
What about you? How do you handle failure in your life, art, and business?