Being Honest With Yourself, Even If It Hurts

In more recent months I’ve been challenging, and facing, the fear that creeps up when I think of what others may think of me.

Growing up, my very philosophical parents used to try and soothe the very angsty teen version of me by saying, “don’t worry, when you get older, you’ll care less of what others think of you.”

It’s got me thinking that as we get older, we may care less of what others think, but what I really believe happens is that we begin to care more about what we ourselves think.

By caring more about what we deem important we light up in the world, we begin to take action on what really matters to us, and we begin to take steps towards the business, creative practice, or career that has been calling us.

But most importantly, by caring more about what we think of our own lives, we begin to find fulfillment in simply being ourselves.

This is a friendly reminder from someone who has been actively practicing radical honesty in her daily life — in creative practice, relationships, and career.

It will be uncomfortable, and it may even hurt, but you’re doing it for you.

Be honest with yourself.

Be honest about the life you crave.

Be honest about who you’re becoming.

At the end of the day, the approval you’re seeking is your own.

 

 

Execution is the Game

As writers, and creators, it’s easy to let perfectionism and the fear of people’s opinions (FOPO) get in the way of putting our work in the world.

I’m guilty of this. And, I’m sure you are too.

In February 2018, I had the pleasure of seeing Gary Vaynerchuck live at the Tampa Theatre. His live talk was identical to seeing him on social media — except you get to see how funny, candid, and generous he really is.

I can’t remember the first time I listened to Gary Vee, but I will say I was put off. I gave him a second chance and listened to what he was saying. Basically, his desire is for all of us to stop complaining about our lives and go all into whatever it is that we’re passionate about. He wants to help us all avoid regret at the end of our lives. I dig it.

That leads me to a Gary Vee quote that rings in my ears these days:

“Ideas are shit, execution is the game.”

And, so I find myself being more honest with myself. Writing more. Putting work in the world. Trying. Failing. Trying again.

Because ideas come and go, but the most important is to execute on what’s bursting to come out.

 

Journaling Prompts for When You’re Feeling Lost or Stuck

Hands down my daily journaling ritual has changed my life. It’s given me a much clearer perspective on my internal world and what impact I want to leave in the world around me. I’m now a journaling evangelist (is this a thing?) but really, I recommend journaling to everyone.

Today, I’m sharing some prompts which I know will give you more clarity and will shine a light on your path. If you try these, or journaling, out send me a message. Love connecting with ya’ll.

Happy Journaling!

What do I enjoy when I am not judging myself?

If I could ask the Universe something, what would I ask for?

What do I feel is trying to emerge in my life?

What do I most crave right now? 

What have I been day dreaming about lately?

What would you want if nobody cared or judged me?

What would I love to have more of in my life?

If I could leave my reputation and anything else behind, what would I do, and how would that change things for me?

Think of your 87 year old-self, what would they say to you today? What would make them feel like you lived a full life?

If there were no limits, what would I love to become involved in?

How am I holding myself back and what small action can I take today?

What can I do more of in my life that I have been missing?

Who do I admire and why do I admire them?

Where would I love to see myself in 3 years time? (describe your ideal day i.e. where you live, what you’re doing, what lights you up, who you’re with, etc.)

 

START WHERE YOU’RE AT

It’s so easy to see how far you are from your goals and dreams.

I remember when I started running. The thoughts and ideas I had of running came from High School gym class. Having to run a mile in under 12 minutes? or was it 14? I can’t remember that nightmare. All I remember was being sweaty, not being able to shower and then heading to English class. #horrible

So, as you can imagine, as an adult considering the possibility of becoming a runner gave me some really gnarly flashbacks. Instead of punishing myself for my inabilities as a teen, I opted for creating a morning ritual where I walked for 15 minutes. Those walks then became jogs, which later became runs.

There was no overnight success.

There was no pressure.

It was just me going outside, moving my legs. Everyday.

About 6 months into this routine, I ran my first half marathon.

Here’s the thing though. It never really matters how far or close you are from your goals (hear me out). What matters is that you are actually enjoying your life in the process. That you feel like WHAT you are doing and WHO you are being are in alignment.

There’s a process I use almost on a daily basis to pop me back into alignment.

  1. ask yourself WHAT you want and WHY you want it (journal about this)
  2. start where you’re at (any action towards what you want is a million times better than NO action)
  3. ask yourself WHO this goal is allowing you to become (the true win of our goals is who we become in the process)
  4. repeat steps 1-3 every day

Lastly, I just want to say this. It’s SO easy to get caught up in comparisonitis. Remember that your path is yours alone. Your business and your art is your gift to the world.  Keep taking one step every day. That’s all it takes.

And as for me? I am currently training for a full 26.2 mile marathon. One step at a time.

SLOW DOWN: Life is happening NOW

We get so carried away in life by rushing to our destination.

Rushing to college.

Rushing to the job.

Rushing to the mate.

Rushing, rushing, rushing.

This rushing causes an immense about of distress internally. It splits our energy.  It makes us feel like we are wrong now. Like we are broken now. Like we are incomplete.

But of course, you are not incomplete. You are exactly where you need to be experiencing what you need to be experiencing. Does that mean that you become  complacent? Not at all. You can strive for better while enjoying and savoring the present moment.

I was scrolling through my phone the other day and noticed that I take a lot of random photos of things (anyone else do this?!). It reminded me of how much we can miss in life when we are rushing through. It reminded me of how much beauty is here and now.

That life is perfect as it is now.

Not tomorrow. Not when you get the perfect job. Or the perfect client. Or the perfect mate.

Life is beautiful right here and now.