Journaling Prompts for When You’re Feeling Lost or Stuck

Hands down my daily journaling ritual has changed my life. It’s given me a much clearer perspective on my internal world and what impact I want to leave in the world around me. I’m now a journaling evangelist (is this a thing?) but really, I recommend journaling to everyone.

Today, I’m sharing some prompts which I know will give you more clarity and will shine a light on your path. If you try these, or journaling, out send me a message. Love connecting with ya’ll.

Happy Journaling!

What do I enjoy when I am not judging myself?

If I could ask the Universe something, what would I ask for?

What do I feel is trying to emerge in my life?

What do I most crave right now? 

What have I been day dreaming about lately?

What would you want if nobody cared or judged me?

What would I love to have more of in my life?

If I could leave my reputation and anything else behind, what would I do, and how would that change things for me?

Think of your 87 year old-self, what would they say to you today? What would make them feel like you lived a full life?

If there were no limits, what would I love to become involved in?

How am I holding myself back and what small action can I take today?

What can I do more of in my life that I have been missing?

Who do I admire and why do I admire them?

Where would I love to see myself in 3 years time? (describe your ideal day i.e. where you live, what you’re doing, what lights you up, who you’re with, etc.)

 

START WHERE YOU’RE AT

It’s so easy to see how far you are from your goals and dreams.

I remember when I started running. The thoughts and ideas I had of running came from High School gym class. Having to run a mile in under 12 minutes? or was it 14? I can’t remember that nightmare. All I remember was being sweaty, not being able to shower and then heading to English class. #horrible

So, as you can imagine, as an adult considering the possibility of becoming a runner gave me some really gnarly flashbacks. Instead of punishing myself for my inabilities as a teen, I opted for creating a morning ritual where I walked for 15 minutes. Those walks then became jogs, which later became runs.

There was no overnight success.

There was no pressure.

It was just me going outside, moving my legs. Everyday.

About 6 months into this routine, I ran my first half marathon.

Here’s the thing though. It never really matters how far or close you are from your goals (hear me out). What matters is that you are actually enjoying your life in the process. That you feel like WHAT you are doing and WHO you are being are in alignment.

There’s a process I use almost on a daily basis to pop me back into alignment.

  1. ask yourself WHAT you want and WHY you want it (journal about this)
  2. start where you’re at (any action towards what you want is a million times better than NO action)
  3. ask yourself WHO this goal is allowing you to become (the true win of our goals is who we become in the process)
  4. repeat steps 1-3 every day

Lastly, I just want to say this. It’s SO easy to get caught up in comparisonitis. Remember that your path is yours alone. Your business and your art is your gift to the world.  Keep taking one step every day. That’s all it takes.

And as for me? I am currently training for a full 26.2 mile marathon. One step at a time.

Inner Peace in a Busy World

I always had this idea that I should be better than I am.  I think a lot of us have these thoughts. We say to ourselves: “I should focus more. If should live up to my potential. I should be more like that other person.”

These were the thoughts that buzzed through my head on my commute to Harvard in the Fall of 2015. I was a Masters student at Brown University and an exchange scholar at Harvard. I’d commute twice a week from Providence to Boston. The commute would last about an hour. I’d leave my house around 9 am and return about 9pm.

A couple of weeks into this routine, I noticed my brain became extra busy. Like really busy. With assignments from 5 classes piling up. My internship. My job on campus. I felt scattered.

I judged myself because there were people on the train who’d been doing this commute 5 days a week for over 15 years. To me, the thought of commuting like this for even a week exhausted me.

So…. what did I do about it?

I started experimenting.

I got some earplugs. I’d put them in and I’d sit in the subway people watching, wondering what their lives were like analyzing their facial expressions. It seemed like they were happier than I was. They seemed to be at peace.

I thought the earplugs would afford me peace and quiet, but my thoughts got louder and more chaotic. I felt trapped in my head. Truthfully, I never fully realized how trapped in my thoughts I really was.

I was hard on myself for feeling this way. Why couldn’t I just sit in this train and enjoy the ride? Why couldn’t I just enjoy the journey??

It seemed like a deeper metaphor for life.

“Enjoy the journey.”

Late one night while surfing the internet looking for solutions … I discovered meditation.

Like a lot of us, I’d heard of meditation, rolled my eyes at it, and was unwilling to give it a shot. I didn’t think I was one of those people who could do it. I really thought I had a busier mind than most, and that meditation couldn’t help me.

But, I was desperate, so I gave it a shot.

One of the meditations I started with were mantra meditations I learned from Gabby Bernstein. These are meditations you do while repeating a phrase in your mind.

The one I started with was, “peace, begins, with, me”, “peace, begins, with, me.”

After trying it out for a few minutes, I instantly noticed my mind became more calm and at ease. I wondered, “whoa. Is this working?”

Meanwhile on my commutes to Boston, when I noticed my anxious thoughts take over and my fears begin to creep in I would do this meditation both with my eyes open and closed.

“Peace, begins, with, me… peace, begins, with, me.”

A couple weeks into this practice, I felt more at ease. I felt like I could control my anxiety, which otherwise seemed to creep up out of nowhere. Like the boogyman waiting to scare me.

After doing this practice on my commute, I decided to begin waking up earlier and meditating in the morning while I was still at home. What I noticed was that I felt better even before I got to the train station.

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Here’s what I learned from my commutes to and from Harvard:

Feeling grounded doesn’t come from being in a specific place, with specific people, or doing anything in particular.

Feeling grounded comes from a deeper sense of knowing that you are safe, and at peace wherever you may find yourself.

My scattered thoughts were there before I commuted. I simply projected my anxiety and fears onto my experience on that train.

I encourage you to observe your world and see where you are projecting chaos.

I encourage to forgive yourself for not being present, for not being focused.

I ask you… can you feel rooted and at peace regardless of what is happening around you?

 

 

 

*my commute to Harvard on video.*

 

1 year anniversary

I’M NEARING MY 1 YEAR ANNIVERSARY OF SOBRIETY.
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Over a year ago, I decided to transform my life.
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Since then I:
Graduated with a Master’s from Brown University.
Moved across the country.
Started my coaching business.
Make my money with my business.
Show up for myself and my clients everyday.
Became a healthier, happier person.
Most importantly, I allowed myself to be the powerful leader that I am.
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Here’s what sobriety has taught me about life and business.
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YOU have to be willing to ask for help.
YOU have to decide that enough is enough and that you will have control over your actions and your decisions.
AND, that it’s literally impossible to please people — don’t try.
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It’s bizarre as hell because I never fully realized that I had a problem with prescription drugs and alcohol.
SO many people around me dealt with the same thing, so I thought it was normal.
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I thought it was normal to depend on those things.
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See, I’ve always been a happy person.
Happiness was not the issue.
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I know you know what I mean because you’re also a high-achiever.
You’re also a pretty happy person.
But somewhere along the line, you started depending on things to maintain your high vibes.
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THE ONLY time I allowed my personality to truly shine was when I was drinking.
I THOUGHT that it was alcohol that gave me permission to be me.
I THOUGHT I needed permission to be me.
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I learned that I could be me without drugs and alcohol.
That my clients needed me to be me.
That I needed me to be me.
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Sobriety has taught me that you will NEVER be ready to transform your life.
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>>We are creatures of habit.<<
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I ask you today:
What negative habits do you need to get rid of?
What is holding you back?
Why are so afraid to take action on your life?
Who are you afraid to disappoint?
Where is this fear coming from?
When will you decide to be your own rescue?
Why are you still people pleasing?
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>>So I ask you, when will you breakthrough your limiting beliefs and patterns, and start living your life fully??<<

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California Part 5: A Long Weekend in Long Beach

I recently traveled to Long Beach, California and… I loved it! Have you ever been to Long Beach? I was first of all pleasantly surprised to arrive at an indoor/outdoor airport.

I stayed at an airbnb 4 blocks from the beach. Palm trees. Sunshine. Warmish/Coolish breeze. Friendly people. Fresh veggies and avocado on everything. Yes! I especially loved the Shoreline Pedestrian Bike path which stretches for several miles along Long Beach.

I also loved that my morning walks and runs included passing a neighborhood park with exercise machines. A little morning walk is a game changer! It’s such an easy way to implement exercise and movement into your daily routine.

Some photos from my travels below.

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Feel free to reach out. I’d love to hear any recommendations you have on Long Beach!